There is a prevailing elite view that abortion is a woman’s right; that it must not only be legal, but government funded, as well.
Yet women are not of one mind. For every woman saying the only private abortion clinic in New Brunswick needs to be government funded, there is a woman begging to please, keep it private. For every woman saying abortion helps women, there is another woman saying that it doesn’t.
As a woman who is anti-abortion, I do not attempt to represent those who believe the opposite. But women who are pro-abortion very frequently stand up and claim to represent my views. The marginalization of women who think abortion is wrong must stop.
An anonymous girl in Nova Scotia recently published a piece explaining why she had an abortion. She feared her own marginalization, should she go public with her name. She wrote: “As a young female in my early 20s who is going into the final year of her university degree this fall, the very thought of pausing my education at this moment, removing myself from my job and feeling the judgment of my peers for being unable to practise completely safe sex was reason enough to come to my decision.”
There you have it: Stigma comes not from anti-abortionists, preachers or parents, but from a woman’s peers. The stigma of abortion will never disappear. It is meted out today by women who are pro-abortion.
Nowadays, women are made to feel bad about their feminine capacity to bear children, by being told that they could have — and should have — prevented their pregnancy. Yet babies are not punishments, as pro-abortion feminists would have us believe. And the pursuit of professional dreams need not run contrary to personal ones.
If I had gotten pregnant when I was in my 20s, I would have felt that my career was more important. Today, I realize how problematic that philosophy can be. It’s a philosophy that allows women to trample on others — including their own children — to pursue other goals. It’s a philosophy that tells women and men that they have the right to put themselves at the centre of the universe.
In short, it’s selfish. We are told that such selfishness is a virtue. Finishing university offers the virtue of making a real contribution to the world, which, we are implicitly told, having children is not.
Today, abortion clinics dot our beautiful country. Our elites — some of our finest judges, journalists and doctors — tell women that they are necessary. These people take the confused, muddled desperation of an unplanned pregnancy, which so many are, and preach that this moment can be eradicated by an invasive procedure.
Not only do we allow abortion clinics, we demand that the government pay for them. That a private centre of any kind is deserving of government funding is controversial. In what instance would we ever see fit to justify the government paying for an action as misogynistic as abortion?
I realize I’m not winning any pro-abortion hearts here. But that is not my goal. I wish someone had written me a letter talking about the virtues of putting others first when I was in my 20s. I wish someone had told me that I have a lifetime to pursue my dreams, and that the things I would be most proud of would earn me the least money and the least public applause.
It is conceivable to fulfil professional and personal dreams without an “Iron Lady” vision of tight control. It is possible to do so while prioritizing the relationships that make our world matter. It is possible to do so without killing our own children.
This is the vision that women who are anti-abortion want to cast. It’s a case of empowering women in a different way than what the culture currently teaches. It’s less practical, but it’s certainly more adventurous.
View this article on the National Post website at http://fullcomment.nationalpost.com/2014/05/02/andrea-mrozek-no-shame-in-creating-life/